Relationship

Swinger Lifestyle: What are Swingers and How to Find Them

  • Post By Shovon
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  • August 4, 2020

So, what is the swinger lifestyle? Swinger lifestyle or swinging is an arrangement where people, especially couples, engage in non-monogamous sexual activities. They exchange sexual partners as a social activity or to spice up their relationship or sex life. Couples who practice swinging are called swingers. 

Most swingers are normal people trying to have fun and make their life enjoyable by beating the monotonous lifestyle. Swinging lifestyle is mostly frowned upon and considered a taboo for many people. For swinger couples, sex isn’t just an expression of love but also a fun practice. Many think it’s easy, but that isn’t the case. Some see swinging a medium to create a spark in life or to explore sexual fantasies that are bizarre in terms of traditional relationships. Many cases point out that sexual problems or unmatched sex drive can be the reason couples choose this lifestyle. Swinging can either make or break a tie. Those who enter it found that swinging has either made their relationship either fulfilling or damaging. Hence, swinging isn’t everyone’s cup of tea.

Issues in a relationship swinging

As there are so many boons to swinging relationships, there are some drawbacks to these as well. It only works if you don’t bring emotions into the game. If you do, the entire setting will backfire. The idea of swinging is to having sex without getting emotionally attached or feeling a pang of jealousy. Many relationships, as well as lives, are ruined because the couples/partners merged their emotions. First, you need to decide if you will be able to carry swinging or not. If you do, there are some rules to follow to avoid falling into messy situations. The rules vary from couples to couples, you need to talk to your partner about the rules before you venture into the arrangement.

Let me tell you a story I have read somewhere. A woman forced her husband to try swinging. While the husband was hesitant, he still tried to do it. Most of the time, he seemed to be uninterested and felt bad seeing his wife having fun. As time passed, he eventually found someone who was younger and hotter than his wife. Not only that, but the woman was also a kinder person at heart. The guy started getting closer to that young woman and acted distant to his wife. Can you guess what happened next? The wife started being envious and miserable that her husband was getting attention from an attractive girl. It ruined their marriage!

The point of the narration was to make you understand that this arrangement only works if two people agree. You shouldn’t force each other. If one isn’t comfortable, leave it. There’s no point in forcing.

A few facts about swingers

1. Swingers are easy-going people who are sweet in nature. They are socially outgoing and take an interest in getting to know their new partners. They can instantly form a connection that empowers them to get a sex partner very quickly. They are great at making people comfortable with the arrangement.

2. Swingers are adventurous in bed. Swingers are always keen on advancing their skills in bed. If you ever meet experienced swingers, you’d be surprised how much they have explored their sexual side and preferences. Things that you might find gross or weird, they have already been there, done that! They are continually looking for a different aspect of sexual improvement to spice up their sex life.

3. They are unproblematic. Swingers don’t feel insecure, as I have mentioned earlier. Any type of emotion is terrible for swinging couples, and jealousy can be detrimental to this type of arrangement. Swingers know this and don’t jump into swinging without understanding the consequences. Married couple swingers don’t get jealous because they are very open about their sex life and encourage each other. That’s why they are the happiest people in marriage.

Where to look for swingers?

Once you have set your heart to it, there’s no turning back. But the real question you would find yourself asking is how to find swingers in my area? Well, finding swingers can be pretty tricky if you don’t know where to look for. Let’s take a peek at how to successfully discover other swingers.

Swingers Clubs

Every big city has swinger clubs operating like night clubs or bars. These clubs consist of adjoining rooms for couples to have sex during or after the party. These are clubs that are exclusive to the swingers only. If you are still unsure, searching on Google will give you a clearer idea of where you would find one.

Clothing Optional Resorts

Some swingers like to be naked in public, and thus they choose clothing-optional resorts when they travel. If you do a quick search, you’ll find that many resorts host swinger groups annually. If you want one while you are traveling, you are surely going to land upon one.

Facebook

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Facebook and Craigslist are a pretty good place for finding swinger communities. Private and anonymous Facebook profiles are created for swingers. You might even locate some private swinging groups near your location or city. Once you find a swinger specific page or profile, you’ve found the key to open the door to swingers’ world on Facebook. But beware of security and privacy. Your privacy might get compromised if you fall into the wrong hands. If you want to keep your exotic lifestyle private, a good rule of thumb is to open a new account and hide it from people you know. Never use your public profile in the swinging groups. 

Craigslist

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There’s nothing you can’t find on Craigslist, trust me. From casual sex to swingers, you have all the options open. People post ads for their needs, and from there, you might find what you are seeking. You just need to keep your eyes open and need to look at the right place. If you search the “personals” section of the website, you will find a list of ads seeking couples and singles for hookups. You can either reply to the ads or post a specific ad for yourself.

House Parties

Nothing is more intimate and exclusive than house parties when it comes to swinging. Swingers love hosting such parties, whether publicly or clandestinely. By exclusive, I mean, you won’t get access to the parties that easily. You need to be personally invited to these parties. Facebook groups and Craigslist ads are an excellent place to start. Another great option will be making contact with people from swinging clubs. Most of the time, they can help you achieve the golden ticket to your desire.

Swinger dating sites

In case you are wondering how to find other swingers online, swinger dating websites are your next options. If you are unable to find local swingers, you might consider these websites. Here are some swinger sites for you:

Adult friend finder

You have probably heard about Adult Friend Finder. It’s not only a site for casual hookups but also for people who think of giving the lifestyle a chance. The site claims to be the world’s topmost online sex and swinger websites. It’s also gay-friendly and offers its subscribers access to articles and blogs. The site is free to join, but you need to pay for more risque content and better services. The site supports emailing and direct messaging. They also offer an option called “flirting” which is similar to a poke you’ve seen on Facebook. The flirting button is to let the profile know that you are interested in them. Apart from that, they offer virtual gifts, live broadcasts, adult chat rooms, photo contests, etc. They have an app for mobile as well.

Swinger Date Link

SwingerDateLink is the best place for open relationships online. Being a closed-off website, you don’t have to panic about chatting with a bot. Users report that the site is small yet very useful for people who are seriously considering swinging and are seeking swingers. The site offers free audio and video calls for members, and this helps immensely when you need to verify the authenticity of a profile. However, only the paid users can reap the benefit of the features. Otherwise, the site is free to join and offers DMs and search features. 

Swing Lifestyle

As the name suggests, Swing Lifestyle is best suited for those searching for partners with a similar taste. Swing lifestyle is your go-to place to meet swingers online. The site allows you to chat with users along with vacation bookings. But the features have a price to pay. The free version only contains hot dates, profile searching, and member blocking. Unless you pay, the site doesn’t offer you many options, which can be seen as a shortcoming. However, one significant benefit of the site is its serves as a directory, which helps users find swinging clubs, groups, resorts, etc.

If you and your partner are considering venturing the lifestyle, be sure you aren’t pushing each other. Swinging isn’t for everyone, and there’s no shame in admitting. So, it’s crucial to be very open about the topic of interest. Ask yourself and your partner some questions about the goals of swinging, for example, how badly you want it? Will it change your personal relationships? Will it affect your work? Do you have a jealousy issue? Most of the time, a swinging lifestyle goes horribly wrong when a partner chooses to break the rule. Therefore it is necessary to make and adhere to the rules you both agreed upon.